Chapter 4 : Overcoming Jealousy

Jealousy is a universal feeling few people ever want to admit to having, whether it is sibling, coworker, partner, celebrity, book character, etc.

Breathe and think about why you feel jealous. Don’t be hard on yourself. Jealousy is normal. If you have just gone through a bad divorce and your friend is gushing about how her boyfriend has proposed to her, of course you don’t want to hear about it. Smile politely and don’t be negative. Try to change the subject.

Consider being jealous of someone else’s achievements the motivation you need to improve yourself. When someone else is successful, think about your own goals and try to work hard to achieve them. It’s never too late to take a shot.

Chances are the person you’re jealous of isn’t that great either. Everyone has their own problems. Sure, Maria might have a cool car but mosquitoes think she’s the second coming. Nobody has a perfect life.

On the flip side, don’t try to inspire jealousy in others. Be humble. Bragging about success over and over and over and over again is no fun for anyone. After all, people who are jealous of you are going to find it much harder to like you.

嫉妒心是一个人们普遍不愿承认自己有的普遍心理。对于不论是兄弟姐妹，同事，伙伴，名人，抑或是一本书中的人物，嫉妒心理都是人之常情。

深呼吸，想想为什么自己会觉得嫉妒。不要跟自己过意不去。嫉妒心也是正常的心理。如果当你刚刚很不愉快地离了婚，而你的朋友却在一边一直滔滔不绝地讲她男朋友是如何向她求婚的，当然你现在没心情听这个，但是礼貌地微笑，态度不要消极，试试换个话题吧。

要把对他人成绩的嫉妒看作是提高自己的动力。当看见其他人成功了，想想你自己的目标，加倍努力实现它吧。现在开始努力，为时不晚。

不过幸好我们嫉妒的人都不是一点瑕疵都没有的。每个人都有自己的问题。当然，玛利亚也许有一辆炫酷的车，但是蚊子们却把她当成了它们的救世主。没有人的生活是完美的。

反而言之，千万不能去挑拨别人的嫉妒心。谦虚一点。在任何人面前一遍遍不停地吹嘘自己的成功都很令人讨厌。总之，嫉妒你的人很难喜欢你。